i know some thought that i had abandoned this cathartic exercise because of my being upset over mccain's inevitability as orchestrated by the msm and the neo-cons. not true. just was up to my ass in alligators, had surgery and then was really up to my ass in alligators. i have them at bay now and am once more among the world of those not my family and clients.
so much has happened since my last post and, predictably, so little all at the same time. it seems that we as a people just don't learn from the past and it's hindering our ability to have influence (of any reasonable sort) with our children. that's our collective children.
on friday we arrived in vail for a bit of fun and relaxation. well i don't get to have much fun - see previous comment about having my appendix removed, so i'm pretty much enjoying the same role here as at home... three days before we left, a guy whom we know from our work and his wife sort of invited themselves to join us for this weekend as the house was "big enough". needless to say it was a bit unnerving to have some invite themselves to our family vacation, but we decided to make the best of it.
these are "nice" people. they are pseudo parents - they get his only son for a few weeks of every year and have no children together. they "believe in making a difference" in this world. and they took every opportunity to insert themselves between my wonderful husband and our children - they thought we weren't being nice enough towards the two teen-aged boys we have with us. apparently we'd have more success with our children if we "recognized them as friends rather than as something else".
i don't believe it is my job to make them feel good about themselves at all times. it is important for me to give them atta-boys (or girls) when they have done something right. it is not my job to make excuses for them when they have messed up. i believe it's ok for me to say something to the effect of "so do you know where you went wrong" and/or "have you learned from it to move forward?" but - aside from teaching them right from wrong and how to make logical decisions to begin with that's pretty much it.
to save me some typing, i'll just call these guys "ted" and "lisa".
ted has long professed to be a "conservative republican". i learned this weekend that this equates, to believing "abortion is a woman's right guaranteed by the constitution" and "the economy has been bad for the past [at least] seven years and is getting worse" and finally "homeschooling and private schools should be illegal because the government can't ensure the children are REALLY getting an education."
having never met lisa before, i had no idea what her politics were, but i quickly found out that she "has no politics". then she proceeded to tell me "there is no right or wrong except a person's perspective" and "there is no way to know what the intent of the words in the constitution were because we weren't the writers so we should just go with what the majority thinks" and still "all war is evil so we should never engage an anything but approved 'u.n. peace-keeping missions'."
so apparently this is like bi-partisanship. if we do everything the way the dems want us to we have a bi-partisan endeavor. so, too, if you are a leftist you "have no politics". glad we've finally cleared that up.
watching and listening this couple over the past four days has given me a better understanding of what's going on with society in general.
for instance, we KNOW that bullies won't simply go away and leave us alone if we're nice to them. you learn this in kindergarten - or maybe even before. when i was a kid, my father told me "you better not touch (push, hit, etc.) someone else first, but if they touch (push, hit, etc.) you, you make sure you touch (push, hit, etc.) them last." this was good advice and you only had to make good on your promise to hit back once. after that every bully within walking distance knew you weren't someone they could mess with.
but this is not taught to the kids any more. kids are now taught how to get around a system of right and wrong - well the bad ones are, any how. just look at all the killing/maiming being done by the sickos in the "gun free zones". these people are, in my opinion, nothing more than bullies.
i'm so sick and tired of them being treated as victims. of the msm pondering the "why" of it all and making excuses for these people. personally i don't care if they were picked on when they were six or ten or twenty-five or forty for that matter. i don't care if his wife left him (or his girlfriend/boyfriend for that matter) last week, last month, last year or ten years ago. i don't care that his father was overbearing or that his mother didn't make him what he wanted for breakfast as many times as he thought she should.
the fact of the matter is that if these guys (or gals if that's applicable) were taught by their parents, by their teachers, by society in general to stand up for themselves early on and that others would be standing up for themselves we'd reduce the amount of these types of incidences. you don't see these guys showing up with a gun to the local gun club to "get some of their own back". they ONLY go to "gun-free zones" - period. they go where they can be relatively certain that no one will be able to stand up to them.
the same is true in other areas of our lives. we give more and more of lives up to government interference because the media outlets or our teachers or our neighbors tell us it's the right thing to do. what??!?!? nothing could be farther from the truth. show me one aspect of life that government has actually improved, then we'll talk.
we can't teach our children right and/or wrong because the majority of people BELIEVE that the majority of people in our country believe that the old rules are out. that we need to be more open to "bi- partisanship (be certain to see my previous definition above)" governing in order for the country to move forward. yeah, because that's been working so well for us (the country) so far.
now is not the time to abandon our principles. now is not the time to allow the government to indoctrinate our children with liberalized social dogma. now is not the time to stop talking (or monitor our speech) so as not to offend others.
our children our now taught that our form of government is a democracy - well maybe it is now, but that was NOT what it was founded as. our children don't know the history of how we came to be - cripes, they believe that the civil war (or as i was taught - war of northern aggression) was primarily about slavery and that abraham lincoln "saved" the union; and did it legally no doubt. and they are being taught that the government is their safety net - not family, church, friends or themselves.
we need to offend others - it's the only way to get their attention. we need to teach our children to stand up for themselves and their beliefs - starting with challenging their teachers in what they say or do. we need to instill in our children respect for their elders and authority without being a doormat. we need to teach our children that there is a right and wrong, that there are values worth defending and ideals worth defeating. our children (and others in society) need to know that evil exists and it wants to stamp out goodness.
it seems that the people on the left believe that the only evil that exists is in the form of those of us who want to be able to exercise our second amendment rights. or spank our children. or get the judicial branch out of the business of legislation. other than that, there is no right or wrong.
our founding fathers could not have conceived of men (and/or women) who would WANT to make politics a career. they knew that the path they set us on was noble and right and moral - and it was. they believed that those who would come after them would see it too. and for a while, they did. too bad that era is over.
oh, one last thing - am i the only one who finds it humorous that john mccain is being challenged/investigated on the basis of his mccain-feingold legislation?